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Gillian's avatar

At a holiday crafting/movie friends night a few weeks ago, my friend who was hosting had us all go around and give “a rose and a thorn” from our week, which feels very similar to this. And we’d get a little diverted and ask questions but everyone was very committed to getting the group back on track to get around the circle. It felt adorably awkward at first at what was a casual hang, but it was just so SO good for getting us all on the same page when we are all so scattered with our lives. It was especially great during the holidays because we were all feeling that extra pressure too. For me at least it immediately helped all my other interactions that evening feel deeper and closer because I had a structured peek into what everyone was dealing with. 🩵

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Madeleine's avatar

This sounds very much like what I learned to call the Way of Council. That's a more formalized session, using a talking piece, that runs along 4 principles:

- Speak from the heart

- Listen with the heart

- Get to the heart of the matter

- Be spontaneous

It's used among friends (I meet with a group on Zoom every week), but also on the work floor, schools, and even prisons. As Moorea said, it can be used in larger groups but then with variations (otherwise it can get very lengthy). Even though it has a formal structure, it can be very transformative.

My friend Dave is a facilitator who trains other facilitators. His website explains it more: https://watermelon-chihuahua-n8yd.squarespace.com/

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