This got me reflecting on society's obsession with cancel culture and how one misstep is often the end of someone's reputation despite decades of actions speaking to their true character. I think there's a lot of love for our fellow human to be found in being able to slow down and take in even a bit more context before making such a black/white/good/bad judgement.
Watching the Olympics made me look up this article on our excessive focus on high performance cultivation starting at early age:
"Performance expectations have a high cost when they’re perceived as excessive - young people internalize those expectations and depend on them for their self-esteem. And when they fail to meet them, as they invariably will, they’ll be critical of themselves for not matching up. To compensate, they strive to be perfect.”
Right on. You're a beacon of light, Patrick. Learning to admit to mistakes and take accountability is a true sign of turning into a better person. Looking back, the friends and exes who told me why they were ending our relationship we doing me a big favor (even though it didn't feel like that at the time) -- they helped me to see my behavior.
This got me reflecting on society's obsession with cancel culture and how one misstep is often the end of someone's reputation despite decades of actions speaking to their true character. I think there's a lot of love for our fellow human to be found in being able to slow down and take in even a bit more context before making such a black/white/good/bad judgement.
so true!
Watching the Olympics made me look up this article on our excessive focus on high performance cultivation starting at early age:
"Performance expectations have a high cost when they’re perceived as excessive - young people internalize those expectations and depend on them for their self-esteem. And when they fail to meet them, as they invariably will, they’ll be critical of themselves for not matching up. To compensate, they strive to be perfect.”
Yup. I can't imagine how difficult it must be for olympians to put aside that single minded focus and return to the normal world.
Maybe not just olympians? Lots of kids labeled "high achievers" early in their life may have the same pressures and issues?
Oh absolutely. Olympians just strike me as a common occurrence taken to the extreme.
Right on. You're a beacon of light, Patrick. Learning to admit to mistakes and take accountability is a true sign of turning into a better person. Looking back, the friends and exes who told me why they were ending our relationship we doing me a big favor (even though it didn't feel like that at the time) -- they helped me to see my behavior.