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Ann Bennington's avatar

I so agree about empathy, Patrick - I had a very similar realization after I started therapy and recognized that pretty much all my issues with other people were driven by my own fears. I started to look at every conflict that came at me and ask what it was telling me about the other person's fears, and man was that an eye-opener.

I think it's also so important to recognize how our society constraints our feelings - women are forbidden anger, the flip side of men only being allowed anger, and both are terribly damaging. Perhaps not coincidentally, I am currently reclaiming my (properly channeled) anger, and I think my mental health is better for it.

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Christy Marsden's avatar

I've been struggling to make mindfulness a practice, because my perfectionism gets in the way - but this is such a good reminder of how valuable it is, even if only ten minutes a day (which seems extremely doable). Thank you for this excellent post!

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