Thank you, I needed this perspective this morning as I'm nursing a social hangover myself - unfortunately, more of the 'tried to be vulnerable and didn't feel seen' variety, but it helped to be able to define that for decisions going forward. Much appreciated.
OMG, you are so insightful, Patrick. And props for giving credit to the author who coined the phrase. I know this feeling well, and you're right, it feels just like a hangover. Looking from it from the other side, I've also found that being dumped by a romantic partner is almost always preceded by an expression of vulnerability. In other words, responding to others' vulnerability seems to be a skill I don't have. 😣
Thank you! And thanks for sharing that. Definitely had that happen to me a few times in my life as well, although I know in some cases I just dealing with someone extremely avoidant who was making a last ditch effort to battle their own avoidant tendencies.... so in retrospect it had nothing to do with me. But yeah, responding to vulnerability can be a whole skill in itself... I think over the years I've gotten a lot better at just listening and working to stick with the person sharing, even if my personal tendency is to try and either relate to them or to problem solve. (Which I'm doing a little of both of even in this comment 🤦🏼♂️)
Ha ha ha, I've been that avoidant person making a last ditch effort to battle my own avoidant tendencies. But yeah, listening and sticking with the person sharing is always the answer. I also like it when people try to genuinely relate to me, and your reply didn't sound like problem solving at all. 😆
In my friend group, we call this "Hangxiety" - and get to laugh about it when we feel it together. Love this.
I really love that too - can totally see using it myself 💛
Hah, I love that! Thanks for reading!
Great post! And great images! 😊
Thank you!
Thank you, I needed this perspective this morning as I'm nursing a social hangover myself - unfortunately, more of the 'tried to be vulnerable and didn't feel seen' variety, but it helped to be able to define that for decisions going forward. Much appreciated.
Ah yeah feeling you on that one, those can be especially rough. But hey congrats for giving it a shot at least.
Thanks 🙏
OMG, you are so insightful, Patrick. And props for giving credit to the author who coined the phrase. I know this feeling well, and you're right, it feels just like a hangover. Looking from it from the other side, I've also found that being dumped by a romantic partner is almost always preceded by an expression of vulnerability. In other words, responding to others' vulnerability seems to be a skill I don't have. 😣
Thank you! And thanks for sharing that. Definitely had that happen to me a few times in my life as well, although I know in some cases I just dealing with someone extremely avoidant who was making a last ditch effort to battle their own avoidant tendencies.... so in retrospect it had nothing to do with me. But yeah, responding to vulnerability can be a whole skill in itself... I think over the years I've gotten a lot better at just listening and working to stick with the person sharing, even if my personal tendency is to try and either relate to them or to problem solve. (Which I'm doing a little of both of even in this comment 🤦🏼♂️)
Ha ha ha, I've been that avoidant person making a last ditch effort to battle my own avoidant tendencies. But yeah, listening and sticking with the person sharing is always the answer. I also like it when people try to genuinely relate to me, and your reply didn't sound like problem solving at all. 😆